Making Up Again!

Does your partner attempt to control you? Or hides anger and has a fear of confrontation and has an inability to deal straight with people?
If the answer is YES then you are dealing with a passive-aggressive person. Your partner may have not learned how to be in an equal, mature relationship because of unresolved personal pain and repressed anger from childhood. There are also other causes of having such personality disorder. It refers to behavior that results in unalterable and unchangeable attitude towards the environment.
There are symptoms such as:

• disagreeing with other people’s wishes and beliefs
• forgetting, complaining, disliking other people’s ideas
• giving sarcastic comments
• blaming other people

Your partner probably have problems with adjusting and creating relationships with other people. But you, as a partner, can help. It takes a lot of effort and  understanding. Don’t expect too much of anything fundamental from him. You have to understand that being passive aggressive, is having an unhealthy personality.
Having a companion to share beautiful moments is something that you want in your life. But at some point, you start noticing that your companion is always uneasy, upset, and insecure with just about anything. You have to be aware of your partner’s behavior.
What would you do? Will you take the risk of entering the most difficult relationship? The two of you must help one another in finding out the cause of your conflicting situation. It is important for you to make your partner realize that there is a problem.
A passive aggressive person is self motivated. So it is all up to your partner if he decides to change. Your partner must focus on every day problems and solutions. He must understand himself first before anything else. You must also help your partner control his passive aggressive actions.

If you are spending too much time in a relationship that lacks intimacy, closeness nor cooperation, take a good look at your need to live with conflict. If you feel that you have done everything you can to save the relationship, and it seems that there is no significant change at all, consider leaving to find a better relationship. Or just simply accept that things will not change because that is the way he is, then try live a happy life anyway.

To your happiness,

Neil Warner
Creative Conflict Resolutions
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