Making Up Again!

Affairs, including emotional affairs, are typicall unplanned events. Even when we are on that slippery slope, we convince ourselves everything in OK.

“But we’re just friends” are four of the most dangerous words for your relationship and marriage.

But over and over in my office and on the phone I hear it: “We are just friends, there is nothing going on.”

You need to trust me

There is no way that you can blindly trust. Trust gets rebuilt over time. It is based on being true to ones word, having actions match words, not having secretive phone messages or absences. Your task is to trust what you observe and comment behaviorally on that while staying away from interpretations and accusations.

the affair is over

Only time will tell if the affair is over. Often it takes a while to truly end the affair because of “not wanting to hurt” the affair partner or the affair partner may not want the affair to end. Leave the ending of the affair for your spouse to work out. It is not your job to be the detective.

I need to keep my spouse faithful

Your job will be to start focusing on yourself and making sure that you are taking good care of yourself. Finding out about an affair is a jolt to ones emotional well being. Put your energy into taking care of yourself and not on keeping tabs on your spouse. Your spouse needs to find a way to end the affair if he/she truly wants the marriage to work. If you also want the marriage to work put your energy into being the kind of marriage partner you want to be.

If they desire to stay together they will have to see if they can move from operating as married singles into a relationship where they feel emotionally connected. This will involve making a commitment to work towards that goal and being open to getting help with the process of regaining a loving relationship

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There is a category of people who can be called married singles. These are the people who once upon a time where happy with each other, got married, but did not live happily ever after. Instead the demands of daily life, building careers, raising children became so consuming and stressful that they neglected to make meaningful time for each other. The married couple continued to handle their daily living demands however the emotional connection between them suffered. Gradually they grew further and further apart, each feeling very alone. The married singles lifestyle had crept softly into their life and they accepted it as that is the way it is.

You need to trust me

There is no way that you can blindly trust. Trust gets rebuilt over time. It is based on being true to ones word, having actions match words, not having secretive phone messages or absences. Your task is to trust what you observe and comment behaviorally on that while staying away from interpretations and accusations.

the affair is over

Only time will tell if the affair is over. Often it takes a while to truly end the affair because of “not wanting to hurt” the affair partner or the affair partner may not want the affair to end. Leave the ending of the affair for your spouse to work out. It is not your job to be the detective.

You admit your attraction for each other, but promise (complain) that you can never act on it. You fantasize what it would be like to be with this person. This helps to create a pretend world where everything would be wonderful if the two of you could just be together.

One of the most overlooked and dangerous facts about emotional affairs is that we are all vulnerable. If you believe that this fact does not apply to you, then you are even more vulnerable than everyone else.

How to protect yourself and your relationship

Keep clear boundaries. A boundary is simply what kids mean when they say “don’t go there.”

Avoid being alone with and/or emotionally close to someone to whom you are attracted.

Everything is fine because I have ended the affair.

Unfortunately it is not so simple. For most couples it takes some real work to learn to re-connect with each other in a caring and loving way. Frequently marriage counseling may be necessary in order to learn new communication skills and ways to emotionally connect with each other.

Couples who desire to stay together can get through an affair if they genuinely want to re-connect with each other. It will take time and a willingness to put effort into rekindling their love

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You’re suspicious that your husband is cheating on you. You don’t know what can be done. You need to know how to catch a cheating husband. Read this article for more information.

Catching Cheating Spouse

From the outset, keep your wits about you. Try not to assume you know what’s going on. Don’t hire a detective or buy fancy spying equipment just yet – not unless you are certain you need to.

The task is not easy and make sure you take as much time and consideration as you can muster. First try and closely observe their behavior for any signs that corroborate your fears.

Pay Close Attention to small issues – It definitely helps if you are alert. Too many women turn a blind eye to the obvious signs of infidelity. Some consider it a breach of privacy to rifle through their spouses private things. From our perspective it’s better to know for sure than to be taken for a fool. A great many times, the only surefire way to be certain is only by looking through their things.

Gather Documentation- Once you start to see small signs of infidelity, it is wise to note them down systematically. Relying on your memory is not a risk worth taking. Don’t forget, having tangible proof of cheating will be a great help to you when it comes time to confront your husband.

Be Careful- Now that you have found concrete evidence of your spouse’s infidelity, it’s key that you keep your emotions and actions under control. Try and store any hard proof somewhere secret as well.

Don’t Ask Questions- Once you start getting hints that your husband has been cheating on you; don’t use this as an excuse to ask him. Don’t forget the tried and true statement, “Ask no questions and you will get no lies”. Dropping hints and asking questions will only give him more reason to hide his behavior from you before you’ve even gotten the proof you need to confront him outright.

How To Confront Him- This is the last and most crucial stage. Stay as calm and composed as you can when you confront him. Taking the time, place and what you will say into consideration, will help you stay composed and expose his cheating ways. Always consider safety here and I advise to have another person with you is possible.

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