Making Up Again!

Most single guys are interested in how to talk to girls in a more fun and seductive way. It is actually pretty easy if you quit doing all the normal, things guys do that just turn girls off.

These are my personal advice on how to talk to girls:

Give up on pick up lines. These will set you way back. This are just a bunch of garbage that guys memorize and they only show that he doesn’t really care enough to say anything original. It makes you look about as charming as a panhandler begging for spare change. “Spare some change?”  Does that have you feel like getting to know someone?  That’s what I thought.

Don’t use your lawyer or doctor job, your fancy car, or any other dumb toys to try and impress her. This won’t work because your entering into the situation by putting her up on a pedestal as someone you have to impress. You are walking up to her with the frame of mind that you are below her. If you have a little brother or sister that was always trying to impress you and your friends growing up, you know how annoying that can be. Not attractive.

Along the same line of thought, don’t get too fixated on how attractive the woman is. She likely hears it all the time. Anyway, it probably doesn’t matter since you’re not one of those shallow guys, right?

Alright, so we know now what not to do. This is what I advise you do when talking to women.

Approach her like a friend and just have a lighthearted conversation. Act like you two are completely equal. Some dating experts out there advise that you act like you’re above the girl. I’m not one of these guys. If you’re not careful you may just come off as a jerk. This personally isn’t for me, but I will say that will put you ahead of all the guys that make the mistakes I wrote about earlier.

If you see someone as an equal to you, there is no neurotic need to prove yourself to them. You just have fun and share a good time. Okay, so she’s really hot but that doesn’t mean you need to drool all over her.

She is a normal person after all and has dreams and fears of her own. Someone who isn’t perfect herself. After you really understand this stuff, you don’t have to worry about creeping the girl out ever again. Plus, the odds will be much more in your favor that she will actually feel attracted to you.

The core of the message here is to not treat her like someone better than you. If you try to go up to her her believing that you have to earn her respect, you’re dead in the water before you even say hello. Talking to girls isn’t complicated. Just remember that both of you are equals and want to have fun.

If you enjoyed this article, also check out How to Approach Girls, Places to Meet Girls, and What to Say When You Talk to Girls.

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Are you searching for answers to your query “how to talk to women”?

Do you sometimes feel that you get awkward around women and don’t how to to talk to them?

Are you always ending up biting your tongue and saying the wrong things?

Good news for you, this entire article is was made for you. The entire article will be devoted to guys who need to learn how to talk to women.

After you get over the intial approach anxiety talking to women isn’t as bad as you may think. You just really need to understand how the female mind works and you can generally engage in any sort of conversation with a member of the opposite sex.

What you need to do though is understand the social context that you are in. 1 thing you have to remember as a man is that you need to understand social interactions and act accordingly, this way you make things easy for women you chat to and you are much more attractive.

In order to make a girl attracted to you and engage in a great conversation, you need to make her feel as if she’s really safe and comfortable chatting to you. As long as you can manage to make the interaction pretty comfortable for her and non threatening talking to women is easy.

We all know that your ultimate goal is to attract her and not just talking to her. If you are able to convey your personality to her in the right way, you’ll stand out from the other guys – that’s why this point is so important and critical.It doesn’t matter if you’re not good looking, or rich or drive a nice car – these things do help, but if that’s all you’ve got, then buddy you need to improve your game. Once you’re able to let her know your personality and that it’s really cool, you can still succeed with girls without a problem.

To make my point clear as day, I’m going to tell you again. Having heaps of money, with a nice car and great looks will not allow you to keep the women that you want in your life for long. At least, not for the long term, sure you can get a few one night lays, but you won’t get anything memorable.

If you are interested about how to talk to women and would like to know how to engage her in different environments, you should check out my article on the topic: How To Talk To Women

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by Dean Cortez, creator of MackTactics.com  

Every guy wants to know how to get more dates, and how to meet single girls. But one of the most overlooked elements of seduction is knowing how to carry on a great conversation. When it comes to conversing with a girl, give a guy enough rope and he’ll usually hang himself!

What this means is, when a guy starts talking to a girl — and he DOESN’T use strategy — with every passing moment, the chances increase that he’ll say something that causes her to lose interest. 

Most guys screw up conversations with girls ALL THE TIME and never realize where they are going wrong!

They’re not saying anything INSULTING or OFFENSIVE… but, they mention something, or bring up a topic, that causes her to think, “hmmm, I was starting to like this guy, but on second thought…”

So, the girl terminates the conversation, and he assumes that she must be a “bitch,” or she must have a boyfriend.

Instead of realizing that HE messed it up, he blames it on the woman…

And the sad truth is, IF the guy had used Strategic Conversation, he could have scored with her! She was INTO HIM for the first five minutes, but then he went off on a tangent about something (complaining about his job, for example), and her interest in him COOLED OFF.

My point is, you’ve got to use STRATEGY and a GAME PLAN when you talk to women.

She’s not going to realize of this! On the surface, it feels like a fun, interesting conversation…

Beneath the surface, however, you are using strategies that are designed to bolster her attraction.

Now, when I say “Strategic Conversation,” I’m not just talking about the things you SHOULD say. It also means the things you should NOT say.

And, it definitely means spending most of the time LISTENING, and encouraging her to keep sharing — rather than YOU talking about yourself.

You want to maintain an “element of mystery” that frames you as a prize she needs to WIN. (This is a different approach from the one most men take, because they view HER as the prize they must pursue!)

So for starters, STOP telegraphing your interest.

This means, DON’T do any of the things that make it OBVIOUS that you’re sexually interested in her.

Why? Because when you make your interest obvious, you are no longer a CHALLENGE.

She KNOWS she can have you. You, along with the only 34 guys in the bar who are eager to come talk to her!)

You may be telegraphing your sexual interest to women without even realizing it…

Some examples would be :

- Offering to buy her a drink right away.

- Telling her how beautiful she is.

- Introducing yourself by name immediately.

- Acting nervous or hostile if another guy enters her space.

- Obviously trying to impress her. (Talking about money, your big career, your new car, your amazing social life… ALL of these things can be communicated WITHOUT telegraphing interest.)

- Crowding her space and trying to monopolize her attention.

This first conversation should be considered a “recon mission.” You’re letting her talk, and processing what she says through your mental computer.

You are gathering INTELL on her and using it to guide the conversation to a DEEPER LEVEL.

You’re also being UNPREDICTABLE. You’re not following the normal, safe “job interview” approach — you are phrasing your questions and statements in interesting ways that make her THINK and SHARE.

When you tells you about her job, ask her if this is a field she’s passionate about. Does she see herself doing this for the long-term?

I like to ask girls, “If you won the lottery tomorrow and never had to work again, how would you spend your time?”

Then tell her briefly about YOUR passions… the things in your life you deeply care about, and are committed to.

Another great topic is TRAVEL. Mention a cool country, or a city, that you’re been to. Ask her if she’s been there — then ask her about HER favorite travel spots, and where she’d want to live if she could. 

Also, you want to TEASE her once in a while. Most guys just nod their heads and agree with everything a woman says. They’re AFRAID to contradict her!

They think by acting this way, the girl is supposed to feel she’s “compatible” with him.

Well, she’s not going to think this. She’s only going to think that he is BORING and UNORIGINAL. He also does not offer any VALUE.

You, on the other hand, want to convey to women that you’re a busy, active, interesting guy who has HIGH STANDARDS.

In other words, if YOU are going to spend time with a girl, she needs to be UP TO YOUR LEVEL. 

So here’s an example of WEAK conversation :

HIM: “So what do you do?”

HER: “I’m a teacher.”

HIM: “Oh, that’s cool… so have you been to this bar before?”

HER: “No, it’s my first time.”

HIM: “Oh, ok.”

(Awkward pause, as he fidgets and sips his beer… and she checks
 her watch… )

Now here’s an example of STRATEGIC conversation…

Instead of asking a cliche question like, “what do you do for a living,” you put an ORIGINAL SPIN on it… 
 
HIM: “I’m going to guess that you’re an ambitious type of person, and you’re very focused on your career right now… but there are some other things you wish you had more time to pursue.”

HER: “Well actually, yes. I’m a law school.

HIM: “Let me ask you a question, and be honest. If you won the lottery tomorrow — a hundred million dollars — and you never had to work again, how would you spend your time?”

HER: “Haha. I’d probably move to some tropical island.”

HIM: “Where would that island be?”

HER: “I dunno, the Carribbean I guess.”

HIM: “I love the Carribbean. You’ve spent a lot of time there?”

HER: “I went there on vacation last year.”

HIM: “What are your other favorite travel spots?”

HER: “Hmm. I haven’t really done a lot of traveling.”

HIM: “Well I’ll tell you right now, if you’re going to date a guy like me, we’re going to need to go on some adventures. I can't wait to get back to Italy. It's one of my favorite countries… “ 

So you see, by using strategic phrasing, I’ve opened the door to an interesting, deep conversation that can go in many different directions.

It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been to Italy, or whether she’s a lawyer or a cocktail waitress. The idea is to use conversation as a TOOL to open up doors and get her to bond with you over interesting topics.

We can talk about PASSION… our GOALS… TRAVEL … and because I’ve done quite a bit of traveling, I can offer value to her. I let her know (in a playful way), if she dates a “guy like me,” she’s going to see the world.

This is just one example. Whether your goal is to pick up girls in bars, or take your friendship with a woman to a romantic level, these skills are essential. Once you understand the PRINCIPLES of Strategic Conversation, you’re going to know exactly how to guide things along. The more you practice these tactics, the more natural it feels.

Soon, you’ll be walking up to women and TOTALLY engaging their interest… not because of your looks, but because of the WORDS you use to capture her imagination.

Just remember, the key is to SPARK her interest with good topics, and then LISTEN and BOND with her.

Final tip: Use “Minimal Encouragers” to keep her talking and sharing :

“Hmmm, that’s really interesting. Tell me more…”

“Yeah, I can see why you feel that way…”

“That’s an interesting idea, how did you come up with that?”

“I can tell we definitely have some things in common…”

Remember, you can CONTROL the conversation by bringing up topics
and using “strategic phrasing” to keep her talking.

But, don’t DOMINATE the conversation. Listen, appreciate what she is saying, and keep guiding it along into new areas.

(Don’t hesistate to switch topics if the current topic is running out of steam. Get her thoughts on it, share your thoughts, and then move on — YOU are in the driver’s seat.)

The Mack Tactics program includes dozens of topics and techniques that are designed to give you bulletproof “conversation game” with women. You’ll know how to talk to girls in a way that stimulates massive curiosity and attraction.

Learn them, use them, and have fun with them!

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by Dean Cortez, creator of the Mack Tactics Dating System For Men  

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Hey Dean,

My best friend Jim is in trouble. He needs a Mack Intervention. He hasn’t hooked up in over a year. He says he’s fed up with playing “the game”…and with the shitty luck he’s had, I can’t say I blame him. He’s been dumped, cheated on, and stood up more times than I can remember.

When I’m able to coax him to come out for a beer, he can’t even bring himself to talk to women. It’s like his spirit has been broken. He’s formed this attitude that all women are bitches—especially the good-looking ones—and he’d rather just avoid the pain. 

I just need to get my buddy laid. It doesn’t need to be a hottie. Can you suggest some pickup tactics, or a place to take him, so that I can break him out of his slump?  

- Billy, Connecticut  

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Dean Cortez here with some Tactical advice…

As for your desire to get your pal laid, you’ve got good intentions but you wouldn’t really be doing him any favors. In his emotional state, a one-night stand or a “happy ending” at the massage parlor might be the last thing he needs.

What Jim needs to learn is the art of how to attract women. Once he does, he’ll be operating with an advantage instead of a disadvantage. Instead of letting women judge and reject him, he will be attracting more women into his life constantly. 

M.A.C.K. Tactics is about arming men with a set of tools and skills that they can use forever. Because the truth is, once you enter into a serious relationship, it’s important that you remain a masculine, confident guy who continues to make your woman feel attracted. Once you start slipping back into your “old” ways, that’s when she’ll start to tune out, and all kinds of problems develop. 

As the saying goes, “You can give a man a fish, and feed him for a day. Or, you can teach a man to fish and feed him for a lifetime.”

I’d have to say most guys don’t believe they have what it takes to attract women. This is the status quo among single men, even though they might be able to fake a certain level of confidence. They might not be the social misfits living in their mother’s basement. They could be that crew of well-dressed guys standing around at the nightclub, who look like they’re out to meet girls and make something happen tonight, but in reality they fully expect to go home alone. (Since that’s what happens every time they go out.)

I can understand why so many guys lose heart. I wouldna’t show up at my job every day with a great attitude if I hadn’t gotten a paycheck in months. For guys who don’t understand how to attract women, it becomes demoralizing. Hanging around in bars and clubs and trying to meet girls, and getting shot down, is always painful. Or, bringing a girl out on a date and being super-polite and charming for two hours, but then you never see her again because she says she’s “too busy”. 

Why should these guys continue to approach women and risk their self-esteem, or any more of their time and money, when there is seldom any reward?

The answer is to abandon your old ways, and your old mentality, and become a Mack.  The Mack never operates from a position of fear or anxiety, because he understands how attraction works. 

You can learn a bunch of different pickup lines or “routines” that will help break the ice with women. You can have a great sense of humor. You can even have the looks of a Chippendale dancer and drive a Ferrari. But if you don’t understand and master how attraction works, women are never going to be into you on a deeper level.

Will the Chippendale get attention from women? Sure. Some women will eagerly hand over their phone numbers, go on dates with him, and perhaps sleep with him because he’s got those superficial qualities that women are taught to think are “attractive.”

But if he doesn’t understand how to project the key masculine qualities that women respond to on an instinctual feminine level, even a guy with looks and money is going to wind up alone and ignored, just like regular guys. You’d be surprised how many decent-looking, wealthy men are out there, struggling to find a quality woman who wants them for anything other than their money—because they don’t know how to stimulate real attraction in women, and they don’t know how to talk to women.  

Consider the average guy. If you sat him down on his living room couch next to a beautiful woman, he’d be utterly clueless about how to make her feel attraction for him. Instead he will do exactly what she expects him to do.

He’ll be really nice and do things to please her, while hoping that if they spend enough time together, she’ll eventually realize that he’d be a great boyfriend.

Unfortunately, this will never happen. What will happen is that within five minutes (or sometimes a lot less), she’ll realize that she feels absolutely no attraction for him, and she’ll start thinking up an excuse to extract herself from the situation.

The Mack, on the other hand, understands how to “build a bridge” with her through creative conversation, and then escalate the situation to a physical level. He does it in a smooth, subtle way so that it never feels rushed or forced. As things progress, it feels natural and comfortable.

Most importantly, he does not operate from a position of scarcity and need. (“I don’t want to rush things and screw it up, because who knows when I’ll have another chance with a girl this hot?”)

Instead, he operates from a position of confidence and abundance. (“I have plenty of options, and women find me attractive. Right now I’m enjoying getting to know this particular girl, so I’ll see how far I can take it.”)

The good news is that there are proven methods, and an actual step-by-step process, for making women feel attraction for you. Go to MackTactics.com and you can download a free 80-page book called the S.W.A.T. Guide (Secret Weapons & Attraction Tactics) that will get you started on the right path.

There’s no sense in wasting another night, or any more of your money, playing “the game” the way every other guy does. If you’re ready to start dating the women you deserve—and the women who deserve you—it’s time to Go Tactical.

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

MackTactics.com 

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by Dean Cortez, MackTactics.com

So you’re single and you’ve recently relocated to Vegas. You’re adjusting to the broiling heat, always splitting your Aces and 8’s at the blackjack tables, and on a mission to hook up. You want to know how to pick up a hot girl in Sin City.

For guys, the Vegas singles scene presents its own unique challenges—along with an infinite assortment of stunners from every city in America and corner of the planet. Here’s some advice and dating tactics for you would-be Casanovas looking to score on the Strip:

Build your network. Every time you head out on the town, you should make friends with doormen, bartenders, managers and VIP hosts. In Vegas, these people tend to be courteous professionals. Introduce yourself, strike up a quick conversation, and compliment them on their establishment. Being on good terms with these people will get you preferential treatment, and the girls always notice a guy who strolls in and gets a friendly welcome from the people in charge.

Hit the clubs in style. Ever since the nightclub Light, at the Bellagio casino, started offering European-style “bottle service,” the clubs in Las Vegas have made it practically impossible to find a seat UNLESS you shell out for a bottle of booze. Most guys who are new to Vegas assume you have to be a celebrity, or "connected," to get a VIP table. Anyone can pay to reserve a table, and trust me, they are totally worth it. It might cost you and your friends a few hundred dollars, but in today’s Vegas club scene that’s the price of having a really fun time…instead of standing around with the tourists and having to stand in line to get a drink. More importantly, you can invite women to sit down with you. It’s an "opener" that most women will gladly agree to: “Hey, you and your friends should join us at our table for a drink.”

Know how to work the tourists. When women visit Vegas with their girlfriends, they come to shed their inhibitions and behave in ways they normally wouldn’t back home. Play up your “insider” status as a local and encourage them to get a little crazy. My buddy has a really good routine. After finding out a hottie is from out of town, he’ll tell her, “y’know, whenever I visit a new city for the weekend, I always want to have one amazing night I’ll never forget as long as I live. I think you’re looking to have a night like that—you seem like a spontaneous, adventurous person.” Get her in this mindset and play yourself up the guy who’s going to give her this experience. Invite her and her friends to roll with you to another bar or club—someplace new, or lesser-known. Play it up as a cool “insider” spot that tourists don’t know about. 

Learn when to call it a night. In every other city in America, the concept of “last call” exists—when the bars close down and you’re forced to either make a regrettable hookup or go home to pass out. Not in Vegas. At a time of day when your parents are finishing their breakfast, you can keep partying in after-hours clubs or bars that never close. For a lot of dudes, this means heading to a topless club and trying to hit on strippers. Then they wake up the next day with a hangover and blurry memories of." (Or was it "Mercedes?”)

Master the rules of the Vegas game, and you can roll like a rock star any night of the week. Just be smart and strategic. As Bill Maher, one of my favorite comedians, said -- “For a man to walk into a bar and have his choice of any woman he wants, he would have to be the ruler of the world. For a woman to have the same power over men, she’d have to do her hair.”

For the best dating advice on how to meet single girls, talk to them, build connections, and close the deal with them, visit MackTactics.com and download our free 80-page book: "The S.W.A.T. Guide” (Secret Weapons & Attraction Tactics). Right now, this book is free for a limited time!

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

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