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I hope that the following article will help you to better understand this topic on insecurity and jealousy.

When it comes to overcoming emotions of hatred, it’s important to know that insecurity and jealousy always go hand in hand. Oftentimes you may feel that the person you are jealous of is deserving of your anger or that you simply aren’t good enough to get what you desire. Well these emotions truly do not steam out of realities, but are rooted in your own feelings of low self-esteem. Here are a few ways you can rise your assurance and make letting go of your jealousy significantly easier.

Dealing with insecurity and jealousy isn’t an easy thing. However, if you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s a good idea to take a step back from the situation and look at it from a more neutral point of view. Sometimes you have to take time to calm yourself down and distance yourself from the scenario is a amazing first step that when it comes to examining your feelings realistically.

There are many ways to do this. Many people do not like to write in a journal to express their emotions, then seeing a therapist can help enormously in coping with your insecurity and jealousy.
Another advantage to doing it this way is that, once you’ve calmed down, you can look at your writing later and see it in a different light. Other writing exercises include listing positive traits and skills that you possess. After all, when you’re eaten up with envy, it’s all too easy to lapse into feelings of self loathing on top of everything else.

Remember that just because you failed or you didn’t get what you want doesn’t mean that you can’t or you never will. Keep this list in a place where you will see it often. You’ll be surprised at just how handy having these little reminders can be in cheering you up when you’re overwhelmed by feelings of insecurity and jealousy.

Writing in a journal is not for many people out there, and I think seeing a therapist can help enormously in coping with your insecurity and jealousy. Well I think therapists are useful in that they can give you a new tool, professional opinion on your feelings and action.

They can also assuage the situation in ways you might have never considered. Easily having somebody to listen to can be a enormous comfort to you.

In confronting your feelings of insecurity and jealousy, you are doing more than just dealing with the situation in a constructive manner. Well you also learning to grow as a great human being. In learning not to dwell on disappointments and to find joy in life despite them, you will find yourself leading a much healthier, happier lifestyle. Learn more today about how you can keep your insecurity and jealousy from controlling you!

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In any relationship, insecurity is bound to play a part and occasionally men find themselves with an insecure girlfriend who needs nurturing and reassuring.  In order for insecurity issues to be addressed we need to ask certain questions, for instance: what is the cause of the insecurity?

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Insecurity can be caused by numerous reasons, by asking the question we can help to identify the cause, for instance: jealousy and low self esteem are two common factors.  By revealing the reason why our partner is feeling insecure we can start addressing ways to help her feel more comfortable in the relationship.

Jealousy

It is almost an automatic response for men to glance at another woman that is walking by. We cannot go around with eyes closed all the time and we notice what goes on, but it is essential that your insecure partner understands no matter how much you look around, it is her that you have eyes for.

Imagine if your girlfriend was constantly flirting or casting eyes at other men – you would have cause to feel insecure, too.  An additional problem with insecurity is that partner may start to think you are having an affair just because of a few late nights at the office or a few business trips have taken you away.

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If you girlfriend has become insecure enough to think you are having an affair, then how do you start convincing them otherwise?  The truth is you have to start proving that before the occasion arises: your girlfriend trusts you to be faithful to her and you have to make sure she knows you ‘are’ being faithful to her.  The old romantic tricks work, but don’t overdo them, and the reassurance and loving touches add to the picture and reduce the risk of jealousy.

Self Esteem

Opening up with your girlfriend and being honest about how you feel – telling her you love her, you care about her, how great she looks, telling her about your day and listening to hers is a great way to build security and self esteem.  If you are stressed at work and come home, say nothing, and let it build up she is bound to feel insecure: is she the problem, she thinks?  Sharing your day can be a great way to bond and build trust and relationships.

Many great relationships fall to insecurity in one partner or the other, and often as a woman grows older she loses her confidence; she sees herself ageing, and believes that you will no longer find her attractive.

Reassure her that she is  the love of your life, tell her how great she looks, if she never dresses up then take her out to dinner or a show and tell her.  You need to give her all the love and care you can, and be absolutely straight with her on all points.  By helping to make your partner feel special you will be reducing any insecurity that may exist and will be giving your relationship the best chance of success.

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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Coach , writes… …

A common concern for clients of mine is their belief that they have to drop 50 pounds and/or be financially secure prior to being able to create long-standing love. This is of course a myth. This is just low self-esteem blocking you from being truly whole.

It is great to want to look your best, feel your best, have high self-esteem and be ok concerning your money situation. It feels truly wonderful to feel secure, confident, and attractive.

There are a HUGE amount of industries that prey on peoples’ low sense of self-image. At some time or another, we’ve all fallen prey to buying that new exercise machine that promises to make it easy for us to tone up, slim down and own a beautiful body. Supplements, special diet foods or dieting plans, products for our hair, skin, teeth, libido, you name it! And these messages are directly aimed at one simple idea – that we are not inherently OK the way we already are.

We’re so accustomed to this kind of thought pattern that we never even realize [what is. It’s not surprising that we do that pattern of thinking. After all, when we arrive here, at the beginning of our existence, we are loved and treated as perfection – at least most of the time. Then soon we are compared to how the previous sibling evolved, at what age they developed this ability, sitting, crawling, language, and so on. Our hair, our bodies and how they are similar or dissimilar to this one or that. “Oh, she looks similar to Aunt Mary when she was that age.” You understand the drill.

Begin by analyzing your recurring thoughts and emotions about your body. Most people don’t actually realize that they have stuck energy or feelings from these previous experiences. Negativity, whether strong or mild, feels bad and most of us just learn to subjugate it, deal with it, or drive it further into the underbelly of your mind. These intense emotional experiences tend to stay subjugated. We have all used the phrase “emotional baggage.” We go around with old unresolved, painful, hard to deal with feelings continuing to be held somewhere inside of us. Those emotions transmit to the Universe to reflect back more of the same. You can free yourself by improving your self-esteem.

Start to transform your connection with yourself by creating lists of things you like about you. What really harmonizes with yourself? What can you appreciate about your appearance? Think of 10 affirmations every day that you truly love about your body. Do you like your senses? Are you appreciative of functioning fingers? Make lists of the positive things about you and watch your energy and vibrational point of attraction begin to improve. You CAN improve your self-esteem and attract love.

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Co-dependency and counter-dependency in the context of a relationship are both types of co-dependent behavior because the underlying reasons for both behaviors are the same these are:

1. Low Self Esteem brought about by feelings of shame
2. Fear of being alone

On the co-dependent side the co-dependent person desperately looks for a person who is prepared to put up with their shameful self. They will open up to this person because they feel that they feel they have a need to salve their consciousness about inflicting themselves on another person. They will do anything for that person including debasing themselves in order to keep them because they feel that they have no worth and that their partner will eventually realize this, they will adopt compliance behaviors.

On the counter-dependant side the counter-dependent person cannot face their shame and will do anything that it takes to avoid facing it which may involve virtually any type of addiction the most common of the traditional addictions being alcoholism. Another form of addiction even more common is the addiction to adrenalin in the form of anger at people in general and at their partner in particular. A counter-dependent person is afraid of opening up to another person possibly because they have been rejected or betrayed earlier in life but primarily because if they open up to another person they are also opening up to themselves and facing what they have refused to face. They try to bind their partner to them by threatening their partner and belittling them so that there partner will feel helpless and dependent on the counter dependent, they will adopt control behaviors.

In reality most co-dependent relationships have elements of both co-dependent and counter-dependent behavior in both co-dependents where each switches from one role to the other resulting in the push/pull effect often seen in codependent relationships, however usually each person in the relationship will predominately assume either the co-dependent or the counter-dependent role.

A mistake that many well-meaning newcomers make is to come across as too loving or too eager to please. This appears false and is most off-putting to children. Ideally, during these initial meetings, there shouldn’t be any pressure on the children to interact with their parent’s new partner. This is the let them get used to the intruder’ stage – nothing more.

The first thing you have to do is avoid doing anything that could cause further relationship breakdown. It is never too late to change things within yourself not only to save your marriage but to become a better you. As you change, the effects of your changes will be noticed by your spouse and they will start remembering why they fell in love with you in the first place as well as help save your marriage.

Another thing that is helpful is to agree on a marital separation if your partner has asked for one. Even though you do not agree to be apart inside, arguing never helps and will only harm the relationship. You may think they are wrong for the feeling they have in ending the relationship but their perception is a reality to them. Arguing that point will only intensify their viewpoint of being in an unhappy marriage. You need to accept the situation even if you disagree with the reasons.

The idea is to keep the kid’s normal routine as intact as possible in the early weeks and months, that way you appear much less of a threat. Once they can feel confident that you are not going to upset their lives that things will go on much as before, they will begin to relax and be more comfortable with you around

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Why do people fall out of love and end up being unfaithful to their partner?

There are many reasons for this happening. Let us have a look at some of them.

If however you are in a situation where you just want to spice things up and get the juices flowing again, there is a popular and often effective way and that is to to start sending romantic love letters to each other. Doing this can often get that spark going again.

Falling out of love happens quite frequently to younger couples and those couples who have been married for a short period of time. The feelings of love between two people that initially attract them to each other can actually go away and sometimes only come back again when one or the other meets someone in their life who reignites those feelings again.

Our cultural beliefs today have led us to believe that feelings of love or falling in love is part of the experience you should have before committing yourself to another person. People who wish to live together and develop a loving relationship with each other need to take many other points into consideration.

They not be self centered and care only about themselves which can only happen when they have reached a level of maturity in their own life. If one party to the relationship has a low self esteem and does not believe in having good core principles on marriage and family life then this is another way in which a marriage can break up.

Relationships involve two parties and each party’s needs and feelings must be considered. The person that you choose to live your life with should fit in with your type of lifestyle to avoid conflict when it comes to interests.

Those seeking constant excitement in a relationship will never experience a true sense of what their life is all about. Should the excitement no longer occur within their relationship they may look somewhere else to satisfy that need.

The romance of falling in love can quickly disappear once one is settled down and has to cope with the realities of married life such as raising a family and getting out there and working to provide for them.

If one of the party does not have strong core values and principles which they adhere to then they might look for  someone else to compensate for their inadequacies. Feelings of being in love with someone else are often the reason given for trying to cope with one’s own inadequacies, unhappiness and instability.

In any marriage it is important to have a healthy sexual relationship which contributes to the overall success of the marriage, and writing funny love letters to each other can also spice up your sex life. If there is not a healthy sexual component to the marriage then it can often lead to one of the two being unfaithful in the relationship.

It is important to realize that each partner in a relationship has specific needs that they want met by their partner.

Most times, as long as their are good core values being upheld by both members of a relationship, it is likely that the relationship will get stronger and stronger as time passes on. And if you need to spice things up a bit, there are many ways including simple ways like writing romantic love letters to each other that can make your partner feel wanted and loved.

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