Making Up Again!

Recent research has shown that our bodies are intertwined with all our emotional states. There is no way we can avoid reacting with all our body’s organs to any external source of stress.. Stress has a way of affecting our bodies way before we know what to do with it..

What happens when you look for peace and love at home, and you find too many squabbles? Just when you need support, your husband quarrels with you.? Wouldn’t it be healthier to be able to go home and find smiling faces and loving companionship? This kind of home will give your health a boost, and make your heart repair from other stresses.

Some couple fights are inevitable given that both parties, male and female need to start a fight sometimes when in need of refreshing the connection and companionship, and to keep the relationship growing.

Fighting without the necessary skills to control escalation can do a lot of damage to your health and your relationship. You can fight and solve issues in your marriage only if you use basic rules for discussion; one of them is each has fifty percent of the responsibility of the conflict..

There is the special case of marital conflict when one partner shows passive aggressive behaviors, where a supposedly mature person behaves in a way that pushes their own share of responsibilities to their partner’s side. The other side is always guilty, or needs to change, etc.

And if the accused partner tries to redress this issue, the response they get is not a good conversation about “what do we need to do now to improve”, but blaming, accusations, bad temper and either sulking or complete withdrawal.

The main difference in the quality of the interaction hinges on the mutual respect they can show for each other, even in the heat of an argument.

Knowing this, there has to be a way to learn how to create a safe environment where both spouses can equally communicate with respect, and this is the area of fair fighting skills.

These are a set of skills that help partners clarify the situation, allow both sides to recognize their needs and provide a way to find a solution without violence.

Fighting and having a strong discussion with a passive aggressive partner will not give wives the recognition they need in the first moment, before beginning the domestic squabble.

But, due to their ignorance of methods to fight fair, they find themselves being more attacked, hurt and put down.

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Does your partner attempt to control you? Or hides anger and has a fear of confrontation and has an inability to deal straight with people?
If the answer is YES then you are dealing with a passive-aggressive person. Your partner may have not learned how to be in an equal, mature relationship because of unresolved personal pain and repressed anger from childhood. There are also other causes of having such personality disorder. It refers to behavior that results in unalterable and unchangeable attitude towards the environment.
There are symptoms such as:

• disagreeing with other people’s wishes and beliefs
• forgetting, complaining, disliking other people’s ideas
• giving sarcastic comments
• blaming other people

Your partner probably have problems with adjusting and creating relationships with other people. But you, as a partner, can help. It takes a lot of effort and  understanding. Don’t expect too much of anything fundamental from him. You have to understand that being passive aggressive, is having an unhealthy personality.
Having a companion to share beautiful moments is something that you want in your life. But at some point, you start noticing that your companion is always uneasy, upset, and insecure with just about anything. You have to be aware of your partner’s behavior.
What would you do? Will you take the risk of entering the most difficult relationship? The two of you must help one another in finding out the cause of your conflicting situation. It is important for you to make your partner realize that there is a problem.
A passive aggressive person is self motivated. So it is all up to your partner if he decides to change. Your partner must focus on every day problems and solutions. He must understand himself first before anything else. You must also help your partner control his passive aggressive actions.

If you are spending too much time in a relationship that lacks intimacy, closeness nor cooperation, take a good look at your need to live with conflict. If you feel that you have done everything you can to save the relationship, and it seems that there is no significant change at all, consider leaving to find a better relationship. Or just simply accept that things will not change because that is the way he is, then try live a happy life anyway.

To your happiness,

Neil Warner
Creative Conflict Resolutions
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